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Many of you may know that our family has been in the process of adopting from Bulgaria since October 2009. It has been a long journey, but we just got back from our second trip and brought home a sweet little 2 1/2 year old boy, whom we named William. He’s fitting into our family in ways greater than we even prayed. We are thankful for him in deep ways. (to read more on adoption at this site, go here).

You also may know that I have written a letter for each of my children to open at the age of twelve. Here’s one I did for my youngest daughter. I thought I’d share the one I recently wrote for William in hopes this will inspire other parents to have this type of biblical vision for their child from a very early age. Let me know of other ideas like this you have in the comments below!

Dear William,

Today you are 12! Ever since we brought you into our family a little over nine years ago, you have been a blessing and a joy to us. First and foremost, your mother and I love you deeply. Though we prayed for you for years, worked tirelessly on your adoption, made two overseas trips, and spent tens of thousands of dollars, we recognize that you belong to the Lord and that he has allowed us to care for, love, and nurture you. Above all else, God trusts us to lead you spiritually and to help you to see Jesus for who he is – the supreme creator of all the universe who loves you deeply and is worth everything.

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465875_10151195579627325_2024786172_oWell, I don’t have a 12 year old…yet. I have an 8 year old, a 7 year old, and a 2 month old. For my first two children, I wrote them a letter that I wanted them to open on their 12th birthday. Since I didn’t have a blog back then, and frankly since I haven’t posted since May and needed some easy material, I wanted to post my newest letter. This is to my newborn, Dorothy. I hope it will encourage you and even be a potential resource for other dad’s who desire to leave the same legacy I’m shooting for.


Happy 12th birthday! I’m thankful for you. You have been a great blessing to our family. I’m writing this as you are a baby in your Continue Reading…


Shepherding what I call “Second Generation Christians,” children who show an affinity to the gospel in a home where parents are believers, is perhaps one of the greatest spiritual leadership challenges I face on a week-by-week basis. Were I to take a more “nurturing” stance on soteriology, I would really have no problems. You say you love Jesus? You want to live your life for him? Great! Let’s go for baptism and get you in the new believer’s class.

However, I think Scripture paints for us a stream of soteriology that is much more “conversionistic.” What I mean is that the gospel shows us the black and white nature of redemption. You are either children of wrath or lambs who hear his voice. You are either captured by the dominion of darkness or a citizen of the Kingdom of His beloved Son. You are either Continue Reading…

The first and second commandments go hand in hand. First, God tell us to have no other gods but Him. He is to be preeminent in our lives. He is to be the hub around which everything else circulates. The second commandment imperatively states that idol worship is not to be a part of the God-followers life. Those two commandments in and of themselves state a very basic fact about humanity: we are created by God to be worshippers. Worship is the ultimate responsibility of humanity. It is not a dreaded once-a-week activity, nor a means by which we seek to receive something back from God. It is our response to who God is and what He does through the past, present, and future.

You might be asking at this point what this has to do with parenting. My only response is: EVERYTHING! Parenting books, plans, and seminars are all great, but many of them miss the most fundamental point of parenting. We as parents are called with the primary responsibility of developing worshippers. Because God has hard wired us to worship, our job is not simply to get our children to worship, but to worship what is right, good, and true, that is, our triune God. My goal in this brief article is to do two things. First, I want to present some ways in which you can foster appropriate worship in your child’s life. Secondly, I want to warn you of some ways that we often foster idol worship in our child’s life. I hope this will spur on deep thought about what you lead your child to worship.

Fostering worship of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit:

  • Respect Sundays. Be prepared for them. Don’t be rushed. Enjoy them together.
  • Create an atmosphere of gratitude to God in your home. Be thankful in prayers, give glory to God when something good happens during your day, Continue Reading…

Saw this on the D6 Website and thought it was a fruitful listen.

Voddie Baucham D6 Conference 2011 from D6 Conference on Vimeo.


Leading Your Family with Focus

September 24, 2012 — 3 Comments


Throughout Scripture, God calls parents to take seriously the spiritual leadership of their children. Passages like Deuteronomy 6:4-9, Psalm 78:1-8, Proverbs 1-4, and Ephesians 6:1-4 reveal God’s passion for using parents to train the next generation of Christ followers. Here are three key areas of family life where you can show significant spiritual leadership.

Your Home

Your home is perhaps where you spend the most time with your children. You are up together at night and awake together in the morning. Your home can truly be a discipleship center and a tool for your family to make a real kingdom impact.

  • Engage in regular family devotions and Bible reading. Sing a bit or do a craft around a Bible story.
  • Build a routine where you regularly pray. Pray before meals, when you go to bed, before a big event, on your way to school, or when someone is hurt or sick. Teach your children that God listens to our voices. Continue Reading…

Adoption Journey has put together several infographics to alert us to the great need for adoption in our world. You can read the full post and get access to PDF’s here.

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Jonathan Dodson wrote a great piece about shepherding our children among a culture of prosperity in this post. His focus is on our own modeling of devotion as parents. With all the practices, models, methods, and tools in the Christian parenting culture, we unfortunately fall short on deeply challenging parents to instill devotion to Christ by modeling devotion to Christ. He says,

We forget the Lord when we have another god, when his gifts become our gods. When our houses are full of good things, we quickly forget God and so do our children. When America was a rising prosperity, the Puritan pastor Cotton Mather said: “Piety has begot prosperity but the daughter has devoured up the mother.” In other words, prosperity can soften piety, true devotion to God. When our children receive everything they want, from candy to gifts, they learn devotion to comfort. Sacrifice becomes unusual. No becomes never. When we offer our kids an unrestrained flow of “good things” how do we expect them to find God appealing, when we’re telling them they’re god?

Rosemond, John. Parenting by the Book. New York: Howard. 2007, 270 pages.

My Rating: 4 out of 5 stars

Rosemond’s book should come with a Kevlar vest because virtually every page is a Gatling gun of parental offense. I don’t say that in a way that demeans the book, what I mean is that it is obvious that Rosemond is not out to simply course correct in his seminal work.   Rosemond, with a decisive tone, is calling for a pendulum swing.

John Rosemond is an interesting figure. A leading secular psychological authority on parenting throughout the 80’s and 90’s, he became a Christian over 10 years ago after reading Lee Strobel’s A Case for Christ. Prior to converting to Christianity, he would often have people come to him after a talk and explain how what he was teaching about parenting was actually quite biblical. He was an average church-goer, but uncommitted to Christ as Savior and Lord. Rosemond still writes a syndicated column and is a full time author and speaker.

John is quite vocal about the downfalls of his profession. He doesn’t mince words about the deterioration of parenting through the past four decades due to psychology’s influences (which he calls Postmodern Psychological Parenting). A central theme Continue Reading…

Do you have goals for your children? I don’t mean deterministic, “they will be a missionary doctor in Cuba” type of goals, but specific goals for their maturity in Christ, their character, their worldview, and their ethic?

Imagine with me if you would. Twenty years have passed and you are working in your yard when your new neighbors step out for the first time to explore the neighborhood. You start talking, Continue Reading…